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Born in 1935 as the middle child of a modest family in northern Ontario, Canada, Robert Proctor was not an outstanding youth. Born into a worldwide depression that only gave way for a Second World War, Bob (like many of his peers) just wasn’t interested in school. As a result, he didn’t do very well, eventually dropping out after just a few months of high school.

Even in the 1950s there were few lucrative career choices for high-school dropouts, so he soon joined the Canadian Navy for a four-year stint. After a mostly uneventful stint, he came home to Ontario, settling down in Toronto to work as a fire fighter. He has since described himself during this period as being “broke, sick and miserable.” So, when his friend Ray Stanford gave him a copy of Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, he was ready for a change.

He quickly decided to put the ideas outlined in the book to use. The first thing he did was take a figure he wanted to make, write it down, concentrate on it and keep it in his pocket. The initial sum of $25,000 may seem modest by today’s standards, but in 1961, it was several times the average blue-collar wage in Toronto, even someone so lucky as to have a steady and lucrative position such as a city employee. To the protests of his brother fire fighters, he quit anyhow.

Shortly, he’d started up a janitorial company that specialized in cleaning offices. Just twelve months after that, he was the head of a nation-wide janitorial chain and had made several times his original goal. Within a few years, he was a millionaire. Clearly the book had some sort of effect. He felt compelled to share this success with others through sharing the secret he’d learned.

Bob was ready to learn more and he devoured all the books he could come across on the subject, many from the 19th century such as those by the proponents of the New Thought Movement. He continued to study and found a mentor in Earl Nightingale, creator of the gold record winning “The Strangest Secret,” and voice of over 7,000 motivational radio broadcasts.

A pioneer of the self-help movement that sprung up in the 1970s, Earl taught sales forces and housewives alike that “You become what you think,” since it occurred to him “like a bolt out of the blue,” while preparing an inspirational talk for insurance salesmen in 1958. Bob went to work with him as a content salesperson in Chicago, Illinois, and soon became Earl’s right hand man.

In the mid 1970’s Proctor decided to begin his career as a life-coach and continues, 30 years later, in that capacity. In the ensuing years, Bob has taught executives at scores of companies such as Prudential and Metropolitan Life as well as Malaysian Airlines.

He continued to seek new material to explain why some people were successful and some were not. Dr. C. Harry Roder of San Antonio’s Concept Therapy Institute, Eric Hoffer of The True Believer fame and Leland Von Syring are among those Bob made the acquaintance of during his travels to work with corporate clients. They gave Bob indispensable advice that he’s incorporated into his programs and seminars. Any time he noticed his life was going along much more smoothly than before, he sought out the nugget of wisdom and investigated it. The resulting program is, in essence, his life’s work.

Today, Bob Proctor presides over seminars worldwide and disseminates his message though several media companies he steers. Coaching Consulting Program is offered along with materials designed to educate users on human motivations that do or don’t lead to success. He continues to offer a twelve-month coaching program through his website that promises to be a rigorous and intensive series materials and conference calls.

He has written numerous books on the topics of getting what you want out of life and fulfilling goals since the 1960s including The Success Puzzle, The Winner’s Image, The Goal Achiever and his highly influential and best-selling, You Were Born Rich. Most recently he’s been featured on the phenomenally successful movie The Gift, as an interviewee and philosopher. With other experts from the film Bob has been conducting seminars to teach people how to use the power of thought to propel themselves into the powerful people they can become.

Bob claims to be spry as ever, in his early 70s, expressing sincere gratitude for his good fortune and abundance every day. He remains committed to the teaching of his system for attaining personal satisfaction.

Greg Aldrich is the author of Secret Mastery, Understanding The Law of Attraction. To learn more about The Science of Getting Rich and how to use it to manifest better health, happiness and even more money into your life visit Secret Mastery today.

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Fear is a powerful, primeval emotion that drives so many of your decisions. Fear is a mechanism for the ego to protect itself from change. Fear can keep you locked in a zone that is not of your choosing. Using a simple technique, you can face your fears and learn how to free yourself to make the changes you want in your life.

Fear has performed a vital function for human beings and even higher animals – the function of self preservation. It is a tremendous source of emotional energy that provides us with the power to avoid danger of physical harm.

We have become extremely sophisticated psychological beings over the millennia but we still retain the fear mechanism as one of our fundamental motivators. We now fear not only physical danger but also psychological dangers. You now experience fear of many things: failure, rejection, being inconvenienced by something, loosing some part of your life you have become accustomed to.

You also experience fear of being discovered to be inadequate at something, or loosing the rationale behind some part of your life. Many of these fears are not real, they are purely based on your perception of what is real.

Yet these fears can trap you. Fear is one of the most powerful motivators in your emotional vocabulary and it can overrule almost every other desire.

What can we learn from fear?

Many of your fears are not real, they are not going to cause you any harm, yet the mind power generated by fear makes them seem very real – sometimes even more real than the physical evidence in front of your eyes!

As you examine these fears more closely, you will see that this fear is really a fear of having to make changes to aspects of yourself. These fears are doing for your ego what the fear of physical harm is doing for you body.

Your fears are borne out of past conditioning and they are fuelled by memories of past events. Often it is the subconscious mind that is generating the fear response and you are not aware that it is happening. The first you consciously know about it is when you suddenly feel overwhelmed by fear.

By examining your fears, rather than just letting them automatically drive your responses you can understand what change it is you are resisting and get some insight into why you are resisting it. Change is an essential part of your future growth and development, and by understanding your fears you use mind power to free yourself for personal growth and success.

How can I learn from my fears?

Fear leads to a number of different response mechanisms that can be summed up as either fight or flight. You might lash out at someone or something either verbally or sometimes physically when you experience fear. Or you might try to avoid the stimulus by withdrawing, becoming depressed, ignoring what’s going on. A third mechanism is to distract yourself – watch excessive TV, substance abuse…

The first step in learning from fear is to be aware when you are feeling fear by looking for responses that could be caused by fear. The next time you feel you are about take some reflexive action that is motivated by fear, instead of just letting it happen, pause and ask yourself “What am I afraid of here?”

This won’t be easy at first, but if you persist you will be able to identify the source of your fear and learn from it.

Fear is a powerful emotion that drives you to do many things that you don’t want to. Often it is a way for the subconscious mind to protect your ego from change. This can prevent you making the changes you want in your life. You can use mind power to learn to recognise your fears and find out what is causing them. This is an important step in making it easier for you to achieve the life you want.

Find out more about Mental self help.

Download my latest e-book here Principles of Success. Visit my website for more resources, articles, and support materials about success and personal growth .

Kevin John has spent many years helping businesses owners, aspiring business owners, and private individuals to develop the understanding and skills needed to achieve the success that they want.

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Do you find making the right decisions very difficult? Do you feel inadequate because you don’t make good decisions? Are you trapped in procrastination by your decision making ability? Take heart! Decision making can be quite easy provided you use a systematic approach to it. In fact you’ve already shown you’re able to make decisions - you’ve decided to read this article…

We are all faced with thousands of decisions every day. Some decisions are quite easy like when to eat lunch, whether to take a coat in case it rains and so on. You probably make these decisions with very little difficulty or thought. Other decisions are much harder, often they have major implications for your finances and your life like: should I take that new job? Should I prioritize that special project the boss has given me? Which car should I buy?

Making bigger and more complex decisions about things that are going to have a significant effect on you is often very intimidating and you may be like many people who end up procrastinating rather than acting decisively. Procrastination in decision making is one of the main causes for poor results in life and can lead you to making a poor decision when you are faced with an urgent need to make a decision that you could have made in a more controlled and effective manner. You need to learn to make faster and better decisions.

Use a system to make decision

A systematic approach can help to ensure that you make your decisions in the best way possible in a reasonable period of time. It will enable you to collect all the information you need to make a decision and analyse it as thoroughly as possible before you have to commit. Here are the steps to take:

1. Before you start, get clear on what you want out of the decision. What is the best possible result going to be like? Will it line up with your overall goals and purpose? Write this down.

2. Start with a blank piece of paper and write down all the facts you know about this decision - write down everything in the order they occur to you. Now go back over your list and ask yourself are these all facts, or are some of them half truths or emotional judgements. If you find half truths or emotional judgements either correct them or cross them out.

3. Now you have a good knowledge of the circumstances of the decision, spend a few moments brainstorming options. You’ll probably find that as you went through step 2 options that hadn’t occurred to you suddenly popped out. Look over your list - do you need to get some more information to improve your list of options? By listing all the options you can conceive you can be assured that you are making the best decision possible.

4. Go through each option. Ask yourself three questions: Based on what I know, what are the benefits and consequences of this option? How do I feel about this option - does it excite me, does my heart tell me it feels right? How well does this option meet the objective I wrote down in step 1?

5. Rate the options. The top option is your decision. Now look at it again, if necessary take a short break, you’ve come a long way and what you’re about to do is to commit yourself. Ask yourself: Does this make sense? Does it feel right to me? If your answer to these two questions is positive - congratulations you’re done! If the answer is negative - do you need some more information to help you rate them differently? Did you miss anything in thinking it through the first time round?

You must remember that no decision is taken with absolutely perfect information, no decision is completely irreversible, balance any uncertainty you have against the need to make a decision.

6. COMMIT! Once you’ve reached your conclusion, you must commit wholeheartedly to implementing your decision. You can be reassured that you’ve done the absolute best you can.

The first time you try a systematic approach you may find it slow and difficult. Like every skill, you need to practice it to become proficient at it. As you get better, you will find decision making gets easier and faster. Persist and you will be able to overcome procrastination and time wasting.

Find out more about Mental self help .

Download my latest e-book here Principles of Success. Visit my website for more resources, articles, and support materials about success and personal growth .

Kevin John has spent many years helping businesses owners, aspiring business owners, and private individuals to develop the understanding and skills needed to achieve the success that they want.

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Mental self help tip – understand what is driving your behaviours.

Do you sometimes have feelings that you can’t explain? Feelings of anger, feelings of euphoria, feelings of isolation? Do you feel the urge to overindulge in food or alcohol?

These feelings happen to everyone from time to time, but you may find that they are affecting your ability to achieve what you want, to have meaningful relationships with people, to perform well in your job…

These feelings are coming from somewhere and because they are strong emotions, they are driving how you behave, what you say, your body language and your tone of voice. They communicate more about you to people you interact with than just the content of your words.

A little bit of mental self help can enable you to make changes that can improve your results.

You are like an Iceberg

One of the interesting things about icebergs is that 90% of them is invisible, below the water line. As you approach one of these amazing cathedrals of ice, you see the wonderful creation that is the visible part above the surface of the water. When you get very close, you can peer down into the blue murky depths at the vast, mysterious expanse that lies hidden under water.

You are just like one of those icebergs – people judge you by what they can experience with their senses – your words and actions, your body language and tone of voice.

This is the visible portion of you and in truth, this is just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more happening inside of you. These other invisible of you and your personality often drive your behaviours and ultimately your results in life…

Yet unless you have spent some time looking at yourself and watching your mind, you may not be aware of them.

A guide to your hidden depths

Wise men, great artists and scientists throughout the ages have attempted to explore this hidden part of the human mind. NLP or Neuro Linguistic programming is one particularly fruitful way of viewing the human mind and human behaviour.

The NLP mind model suggests that your mind is arranged in layers, a bit like the layers you see as you peer down into the water around an iceberg. The layers near the surface are relatively easy to see and to interact with, while there are deeper layers that are harder to access.

The first layer is beliefs – what do you believe to be true. You beliefs will have a strong impact on your behaviours and they in turn are strongly affected by the ‘deeper’ layers. You have thousands of beliefs covering everything that you encounter in life and you use them to help you make decisions about how to behave.

Underlying beliefs are values – what is important to you. You have fewer values than you have beliefs. You values have a big impact on your beliefs. If you change one of your values, over a period of time many of your beliefs will adjust. Your values are more deeply ingrained than your beliefs and it may take some time or some very strong event to change them.

Below values there is your identity – who you think you are – “I am a…”. Your identity is something you acquire at an early age and which only changes very slowly. Your identity includes cultural and other aspects of you and it has a strong effect on your values. . Changing your identity can be a very slow process.

Underlying all of this is your spiritual self – the essence of you.

Use mental self help to work on yourself

Once you understand this model, you can understand some of the things that are driving your behaviours. If your behaviours are producing undesirable results, you can look at them more closely and relate them to your beliefs, your values, your identity, your essential person.

You may be able to apply mental self help to change the underlying causes of your behaviour. There are ways to change beliefs, values, your identity. As you go deeper, the effects on your behaviours become harder to distinguish and they can take more effort and time to change.

Of course some problems are very deeply rooted and it may not be possible for you to resolve them without external help from experienced counsellors and therapists. However even in these cases, your willingness to help yourself is a great asset.

Interested in finding out more about mental self help ?

You can get a free e-course the success principle . Visit my website for more resources, articles, and support materials about success and personal growth .

Kevin John has spent many years helping businesses owners, aspiring business owners, and private individuals to develop the understanding and skills needed to achieve the success that they want.

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The self improvement and self help process involves steps that will not likely be achieved without the accomplishment of their preceding steps. As humans, we find it very difficult to adjust to changes at once, because we have already been programmed to do and see things a particular way. It does not mean that it is impossible. It simply entails that completing the final stage of the self improvement process requires discipline, patience and persistence.

Rome was not built in a day, as the popular proverb goes. Thus, if we want to reap the benefits and enjoy what our self-improvement and personal development changes can bring, we must learn to be patient. The process of self improvement does not and will not happen overnight. Remember that personal and professional changes take some time to get used to and some degree of adjustment on our part; so we should never seek to push ourselves to adapt immediately, or these efforts will just end up in vain.

Self improvement does not happen with simply thinking that we want to improve. We have to act on this ‘want’ and transform it into a ‘need’. Saying that we want to improve is just the beginning of this challenging process.

The basic self improvement process consists of three simple steps:

1) Deciding that you really want to improve,

2) Acting on it, and

3) Maintaining the goal in mind.

To truly get ahead in life, we have to accept that sacrifices will have to be made. For example, if we choose to join a Stop Drinking support group, we have to exercise maximum discipline to stay away from the ‘enemy’. We should make every effort to avoid situations that put us in a position where choice becomes very difficult and just stay focus by repeating the benefits of the endeavour to ourselves.

We must have a good follow through for the personal development process to really work, If we only act on it and then change our minds, or fail to stick with it, it would be like we never started to achieve anything, at all. Keeping both our eyes on the goal at all times is key. Self improvement does not stop when something is accomplished, because it is a continuous process.

Who ever said getting ahead in life was easy? Your journey will surely be difficulty, not just based on external factors, but also from yourself. If you truly want to better your life, you must realize that your worst enemy will be yourself - which is, ironically, the most difficult part to conquer. However, if you set your heart and soul into your goal and convince yourself that though the path is rocky there is a great reward waiting for you at the finish line, you will be able to survive and excel.

Life is a challenge. Conquering your inner fears and apprehensions will make your journey much more challenging. However, it will not be so if you know that you can do it. The process of self improvement and person development is challenging, but very rewarding once you surpass the obstacles. You just have to keep a positive and open mind all the time.

Andrew Chin is a recognized authority on the subject of Self Improvement.

His web site Self Help provides a wealth of information on Personal Help.

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Most of us have been there at some point. We’re overcome by a feeling that doesn’t seem to want to go away. Some event or circumstance may have brought this on, or it could possibly be a condition that we’re predisposed to. Depression.

It can be quite debilitating to some people. So much so that they get to the point where drastic measures need to be taken to protect their well-being. Most often at this point harsh drugs would be prescribed to control the depressive state.

However, for those who may not quite be at that stage, but are looking for a way out of their depression, there may be steps they can take to help lift the cloud. Here we will explore some options for self-help.

First of all, think positively.

It sounds easy, but this may be the most difficult step for a person suffering from depression to take. Whenever you find yourself drifting into thoughts of self-doubt, do your best to correct yourself and channel your thoughts to something more pleasant. It can be tough at first, but the more you work at it, eventually the easier it will be. The mind CAN be trained to think positively.

Do something nice for someone else.

Often times the act of performing a selfless deed can be quite rewarding. Help a friend if they’re in need, or if you’re feeling really ambitious, join a volunteer organization and begin a regular routine of chipping in some of your valuable time. You’ll be helping those in need and the sense of satisfaction you take from it can be more rewarding than you think.

Exercise.

Exercise is a terrific stress reliever and has the power to help foster a more vibrant attitude. If you’re feeling the effects of depression, get up and take a walk, or start a regular exercise routine. Set goals for yourself fitness wise and watch the results. Your sense of accomplishment at meeting and even surpassing your goals can be quite uplifting.

Sing.

Find a song, or CD you enjoy with an uplifting beat to it. Turn your stereo up and let fly. Have fun with it and before you know it, the blues will melt away.

Chocolate.

It may sound silly, but eating chocolate has been found to help lighten a person’s mood. Chocolate helps release endorphins, which help foster improvements in well-being, as well as help relieve pain. So indulge in your favorite chocolate when you’re feeling blue.

Associate with happy people.

The more you associate with more cheerful friends and family, the less chance you have of feeling down. So spend time with people you enjoy as often as possible.

These are just a few tips to help you along. If you have tried these tips with no success and you find that your depressive state has not improved, or has gotten worse. You would be strongly advised to see your doctor as soon as possible. You may suffer from a chemical imbalance or a disorder that may require professional treatment. If left untreated your condition could lead to serious harm to yourself or someone you care about. So if you feel you’re at risk, seek help immediately.

Michael Russell

Your Independent guide to Depression

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By Dr Irina Webster

As a doctor I have worked with many women struggling with eating disorders. I am also a former suffer of anorexia and bulimia myself (this was the main reason I decided to learn everything I could about these conditions and help myself and other people to recover from it).

I believe that most eating disorders are learned behavior. It can therefore be unlearned. By behavior I mean not only actions but thought processes and attitudes as well. As with many behavioral problems, early detection often speeds up recovery.

Those who admit to their eating problem in the early stage and are frightened that they might continue – often are able to change their destructive eating habits with relative ease.

Many of the sufferers I see have already had years of individual psychotherapy. Often their therapists have focused on deep-seated underlying causes, which did not help the women in the here and now. Some sufferers have continued to feel bizarre and alone, even though they were told that their behavior was not uncommon. And there are some who have never admitted to their secret eating behavior.

Some therapists favor group therapy but I have found that group therapy is good and helpful only until a certain stage of recovery – the stage of admitting that “Yes, I do have a problem and I do need help”.

At this point to continue with treatment people are advised by councilors to come to group therapy where they return again and again, but this is not good. Here is what happens – they all become friends and get close to each other and understand each other. But to continue with the group you have be a member of it, to say it in other words you have to stay the same to continue to belong. Other wise if you recover you have to leave the group and all your friends, but it is difficult for most of sufferers to do this so they prefer just to stay the same and not recover.

While it is generally true that women in the early stages of an eating disorder recover faster, two factors seem far more relevant. The first involves the level of commitment to change. Second, but of equal importance, are the strategies she employs to overcome the eating disorder. What can she do in the face of all the anxiety? What can she substitute for binge eating, purging or starving herself? If the sufferer can call upon more productive strategies to cope with the stresses of daily life than group therapy, she is on her way to recovery. The commitment to initiate and maintain personal growth through alternative methods is therefore crucial.

The best treatment strategy, in my opinion, is when a sufferer is introduced to a special recovery program that they can follow at home. A program that is easy to follow and above all else fun to do. Yes that is correct fun to do, because if it is not fun it becomes a chore and the sufferer will simply stop doing it.

But it is also important to be very persistent and consistent with this kind of program so the role of a therapist is to actually make sure that the patient is doing it every day and everything is clear regarding the program.

The best program of the self help kind I recommend to my patients was put together by Karen Phillips (A lady who treated her daughter saving her life from anorexia and bulimia by herself). She wrote a book about her method called “Mom Please Help.” www.mom-please-help.com She approached me with it and I was so impressed that I decided to help her get it out to the world.

It is a very interesting method which has now helped many people to recover and beat their eating disorders. It fact I have discovered if the program is followed exactly then most sufferers will recover given time and stay recovered.

When I was treating myself I had unbeknown used very similar methods to what Karen had used, but it was only when Karen approached me that the penny dropped. She had done what I hadn’t done and that was documenting her every thought, action and words.

The simple fact is that eating disorders have been around for decades and conventional treatment has proven itself to be unreliable for just as long. The statistics say that the recurrence rate of eating disorders is very high even after sufferers have gone through all the group therapies, counseling and clinic admissions. You only have to look at the Hollywood stars to see that this is indeed the case.

It is now time for a different approach and I truly believe Karen has come up with that new approach. As I have used it and have the results with many sufferers making enormous advances in a short time to beating their infliction.

Dr Irina Webster. www.womenhealthsite.com

Dr Irina Webster is Director of Women Health Issues Programm which covers diferent areas of Women Health. Dr Irina Webster has a wholistic approach to medicine and her favorite area is to discover natural treatments for Women health problems and share these treatments and methods with other people. Dr Irina Webster believes that majority of women health problems can be treated naturally without drugs or surgical treatment. Dr Irina Webster started her medical career in 1987 after graduating from high school with distinctions. She then enrolled in the Medical University of Archangelsk situated in North Russia, graduating in 1993.Irina then started her internship at The Komi Republic Children’s Hospital 1993 to 1994 where she studied to become a Pediatrician. Then she did a lot of courses to specialise in Women Health. In year 2001 Irina migrated to Australia. There she has been working as a medical doctor in women health area for 3.5 years. At present she does Eating Disorder natural treatment research. To visit her web-site go to: http://www.womenhealthsite.com

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I learned the self help secret to conflict resolution and management many years ago when I was selling commercial explosives to the mining industry. I called on the manager of a rock quarry, who’s name was Tom. At that time, Tom was buying explosives from his son, who happened to be my biggest competitor. This may have had a little something to do with how our meeting began…

Right away, Tom pointed at me and said, “There are a lot of idiots like you around these days!” I immediately reacted, saying, “Well, I don’t appreciate the way you are talking to me.”

Upon hearing that, his face turned red; he raised his voice and he growled, “I’ll talk to you any way I want! It’s my office so if you don’t like it, leave!” I said in a cutting tone, “OK, fine” and stood up and stormed toward the door.

Five minutes later (not 5 weeks, 5 months, or 5 years), per Tom’s invitation, I climbed into his truck so he could give me a tour of his operation and provide me with information I needed to put a proposal together for doing business.

What did I do to make that possible? Obviously, during that 5-minute window between storming out of his office and climbing into his truck…something happened. Something BIG happened. Something profound happened, relating to conflict management and conflict resolution, which turned the tide and got the relationship back on track.

Keep reading! I’ll share what happened in a second…

Before I do that, I want to quickly point out that my “storming out the door” provides a great example of how quickly we can sabotage our progress toward desired outcomes. I called on Tom to develop a business relationship; that’s what I wanted. However, within seconds, my knee-jerk reaction had me storming out of his office with the intention of never returning again! I was recklessly sabotaging the very thing I wanted.

Do people ever say or do things that cause a knee-jerk reaction in you? Do your knee-jerk reactions ever instantly damage your relationships? Do your reactions ever lead to interpersonal conflict? Do your reactions ever leave you with a sense of regret because of how they derail your progress and leave you feeling lousy?

If so, here’s something you can do for conflict resolution, so you can repair relationships and get back on track creating what you want.

What happened in the ten minutes after I stormed out of Tom’s office? Three things happened, all of which you can apply to conflict management and conflict resolution in any relationship:

1. My sabotaging reaction to conflict was noticed
2. My sabotaging reaction to conflict was stopped
3. I shifted focus off of myself and feeling offended, and put my full attention on Tom - to help him get more of what he wanted.

When my harmful reaction to conflict was noticed, I stopped, turned to Glen, and said, “I’m sorry about the way this is going. I have no idea why you think I’m an idiot. All I wanted to do was meet with you, take time to learn about your operation, and see if we could help you reduce your cost per ton.”

Tom’s demeanor changed instantly. His job as Production Manager was to reduce the cost/ton at his operation. In fact, he received large bonuses when he accomplished that goal. If he kicked me out of his office, he might be letting a valuable opportunity slip away!

As a result, Tom invited me to take a tour of his operation. That began our new relationship. Eight months later, Tom gave me a nice piece of his business because he did, in fact, reduce his cost/ton. I got more of what I wanted by helping Tom get more of what he wanted.

You can apply this approach when you’re dealing with conflict in any relationship. With whom do you have conflict? What do they want, desire, value, and cherish? Once you know, simply help them get more of that stuff. They’ll love you for it; and, they’ll be more cooperative, pleasant, understanding, and helpful.

You’ll always get more of what you want when you help others get more of what they want. That’s the secret to conflict resolution and conflict management.

Copyright 2007

This article content is from Bill Dyer’s Award-Winning Book, How To Bounce Back And Be Happy When Life Blows You Down. The award-winning book is available at: http://www.bouncebackandbehappy.com

FREE info on “257 Ways To Appreciate This Moment And Create A Life You Love”, is also available at the above website.

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I’m sure you have heard of self help before but what about mental self help? If the truth be told, self help can only work if it starts in the mind. I have seen so many people try to implement principles and techniques so succeed but they don’t. The reason is because they haven’t applied the mental self help that is needed.

All success, no matter what area of life starts in the mind. You can read all the books in the world, go to all the seminars possible, and implement all the techniques that you can but none of it will matter if you don’t get it in your mind. I was talking to someone the other day and they told me that they have spent loads of money on all kinds of self help material.

As they were talking they kept saying things that were so negative that it was no wonder he hadn’t seen success in his life. You have to force your mind to change the way it thinks sometimes. If you allow your mind to keep thinking in a negative, pessimistic, and defeatist way, you will never break through to success in your life.

What is one area that is holding you back from what you want right now? Now, what do you need to do to change that? You have the power to change it. If you have all kinds of doubts and reasons why you can’t change it going around in your mind right now, it’s an indication that you need to get your mind right. Until you start the process of mental self help you will always sabotage yourself in almost every area of your life.

By Jason Osborn

Jason Osborn has dedicated himself to changing thousands of lives by helping people find their greatness and true potential through his Find Your Greatness Newsletter.

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Self help is about individual improvement and about the manner in which you can improve yourself, your state of existence and your life. It is connected to many different categories such as health, wealth, happiness, relationships, self esteem, abundance, and the list goes on. It is a concept based on one’s abilities to gather the “mental” strength needed to improve their life. By being able to help one’s self it allows them to regain control of their life, make improvements and help others with similar difficulties.

Self help, or Personal Development as it’s sometimes referred to, starts when a person realize a certain aspect of them self (or their life) needs to be changed, added or improved upon. This realization indicates that a time of great personal growth is approaching as they contemplate taking action towards making this change. This state of awakening is also known as self-empowerment which is the underlying force that will guide them to achieving their goal.

Natural Growth

As human beings we have little choice but to experience growth during our lives. I frequently tell people my life is an evolution, not a closed end or limited experience, because as I continually encounter growth; growth which I freely welcome. And, when inner growth is the focus, one’s external reality will reflect it in a positive way.

Personal growth is the natural course in everyone’s life however many people are resistant to it because it is commonly associated with change. In this case, their life appears to be stagnant even though they are unknowingly experiencing some growth. On the other hand, when change is welcome in one’s life, and personal development becomes a goal, the natural growth rate is enhanced and the positive results are greater.

Empowerment of Personal Development

Empowerment is a strong indicator that you believe you can achieve whatever you set out to accomplish. It is a function of the desire and commitment you need to reach the goal. It can also be viewed as giving yourself the authority to take personal responsibility for attaining your objectives. The most rewarding part of “helping yourself” is you decide what you want to bring into (or change) your life and how, where and when you’ll get it. And, obtaining the goal increases your ability for continued growth at a faster pace because it builds self-confidence.

Empowerment is an essential part of Personal Development because it strengthens your capacity to satisfy your own needs, solve your own problems, and acquire the necessary resources to take control over your life. The byproduct of it is finding inner peace, obtaining greater happiness and the increasing your self-worth.

Self Help and Meditation

The most astonishing factor to Self Help and Personal Development, which is frequently overlooked, is tuning into your inner being for help and guidance through meditation. The true source of empowerment comes only from within and will only be recognized when the mind is silent and clear of thought. The guidance from the higher intelligence which inside all of us is only realized when we make the choice to access it and accept it into our life.

Affirmations, declarations and positive thinking are tremendous tools which can help you reach your self improvement goals though they are practically ineffective when used in the normal “awake” conscious sate of mind. However, when the mind is quieted through mediation the effectiveness of these tools will increase dramatically. This is due to the greater focus and clarity achieved when in the meditative state.

In addition, meditation also gives you the ability to connect with your higher intelligence and use your mind in a genius like way. This added benefit gives you access to additional resources which lead to more effective and faster problem solving. In addition, you can also seek guidance from this amazing source when you need the answer to questions which are not available or apparent while at the conscious state of mind.

Helping Your Self

Individual improvement and self development begins by recognizing the need for change in your life. How the change manifests, and how you grow as a person, is proportional to the effort you put into it. Your desire and determination to make the change will dictate your success in reaching the goal.

Learning how to meditate, and how to use it to assist you in your Self Help needs, will not only speed the process, it will also help you to live a happier, healthier and more fulfilled life. It will help you become the person you desire to be and live life exactly the way you want. And, the best part is, this form of Self Help is always available to you.

English author Aldous Huxley summed it up best: “There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.”

Ed McDonough is a professional Intuitive Life Instructor and Coach dedicated to helping people become self-empowered towards living the ideal life of their choice. Through private sessions and guided meditation he teaches unique dynamic meditation techniques which allow you to effectively create your future. For more information and to get a free report detailing how you can start living life the way you want, visit: http://www.AnIntuitiveLife.com

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